Months ago, I read an article written by Angel Hamilton, a stay-at-home mom, for Time’s Motto. Although an avid reader, most of the articles these days would bore me way before I got halfway through it. Those articles aren’t bad, don’t get me wrong. I’m just a sentimental reader and am always looking for something that hits me right to the heart.
This is exactly what the article did.
Perhaps I’ve known the truths written on the piece for quite some time now. I just needed a reminder and it looks like reading all about it did the trick.
It starts with an all-familiar statement,
“I’m just a stay-at-home mom.”
How many of you have said that? It’s an answer to so many questions from friends and family who always make it seem like it’s easy to be a stay-at-home mom with their disapproving looks.
Three words: it’s never easy.
You may be here because you’re looking for tips on how to be better at what you do but this time, I want you to take a break, relax, and waste a few minutes reading this article reminding you of the things you are and are not.
You are not JUST a stay at home mom or dad
The Motto article has established that quite effectively. Apart from the society thinking and saying this, you should also stop using the word “just” to describe what you do. It’s a full-time work. Heck, it’s much harder than a normal full-time work.
You do a very important job and if it weren’t for you, those little people will not grow up to be the beautiful individuals I know they’d be in the years to come. So it’s high time people recognize the hard work. It starts with you proudly saying you ARE a stay-at-home mom or dad.
You are respected and appreciated
Your spouse might not express it as often as you’d both like but they do respect and appreciate you. And if you find yourself in a situation where they don’t, I am encouraging you to speak your mind about it.
More often than not, housewives or househusbands just make do with their situation believing they have an inferior status. Let me tell you, you deserve every strand of respect from your partner and everyone else.
You have all the right to take care of yourself
A lot of stay-at-home moms struggle with insecurities because full-time parenting has taken a toll on them physically. Putting their children’s needs before their own, many look at the mirror and feel distraught at how they fail to take good care of their appearance.
Between juggling responsibilities with the children and the whole family, it’s just impossible to do.
If you are among those moms who feel this way, know that you shouldn’t feel guilty for spending a few minutes, hours, or even a whole day taking care of yourself. If you are a working spouse, encourage your partner to have that “me time” they deserve.
You are not alone
What the Internet has done for moms all over the world is connect them and everything is so much better because of it. Remember that you are not alone. If you feel frustrated that your kid is not eating vegetables, know that there are millions of moms experiencing the same. All it takes is a few clicks to reach out to them.
What amazes me is how stay at home mothers all over the Internet lift up each other by sharing their individual experiences. No need to feel alone in this world because you’re not.
You’re free to pursue whatever you want
If decades ago it was impossible for moms to pursue their career or earn money the way they want, now it’s what most new moms are doing. If you want to put up a business from the comforts of your home, you can. If you want to sell artsy stuff while taking care of your infant, there are several ways to do it. If you want to take course that’ll teach you specialized skills, you can access them from your couch. If you need to earn, there are a lot of online jobs for stay at home moms.
It’s 2018 and you are more than welcome to pursue a career without having to leave your baby at home. More and more millennials are doing it.
Of course, it won’t be easy. If you are a stay-at-home mom who wants to work as well, you have a number of things to consider. A thorough plan, a meticulous routine, and a conducive area where you can perform your tasks are among them. To guide you into mastering that area, might want to check this out. Aside from these, you also need the right disposition and ample support from your partner. Without them, it can be quite harder for you.