Effective parenting must be the most important mission we have in life. Trite as it may but it is our job to ensure our children are provided with the best care possible.
However, parenting is not as easy as we’d like it to be. There are a lot of stumbling blocks along the way. They are becoming like you every second and I know how amazing that could sound but most of the time, it’s just scary.
Imagine being able to produce an exact copy of you—the same stubborn way of thinking, the same smart mouth. Now you know how your parents felt when they were raising you.
Another thing about parenting is it doesn’t really have a guide that all of us could follow. Every article, every book, every approach is different and is not tailored to all kids. It therefore helps if we gather information from different perspectives.
Because the truth is, we simply don’t have a choice. If we want to have an idea of what we’re doing, the only thing we can do is immerse ourselves into the experiences and knowledge of other mothers and experts on the field. That’s why we have books.
Among the first things you will notice upon holding up the book is The Boston Globe’s short yet powerful description of it. In all its glory, it has been declared “the parenting bible” and I’m pretty sure no one disagrees.
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk emphasizes on how to effectively deal with children’s negative emotions and how to encourage them to talk to you, which is among the most difficult things in parenting.
Furthermore, it talks about praises, when you should express them and when you shouldn’t. I find this really interesting. Parents usually have the difficulty in identifying the line between helpful and unhelpful praises, between saying it too often and otherwise. With this book, we might have found the guide that will make that line clearer.
By Gary Chapman
Is it hard for you to communicate with your child? There’s no doubt you love them so much and yes, they love you too. But how can you put this into words? How can you improve your relationship by establishing a healthy and effective way of communication?
These are the questions you can expect answers to in this book by Gary Chapman. It teaches us about children’s love languages and how we can learn to understand and speak it. It’s a must-have for all parents because it doesn’t only improve how you talk with your children; it also helps you apply these concepts on all other aspects of your life.
Trouble often erupts in homes and it’s often because of family members’ strong personalities. If your child is someone whom you can call strong-willed, this book is perfect for you.
I’ve had my fair share of dealing with children who have extremely strong personalities. They’re smart and I’m thankful for that but sometimes, it can just be very frustrating seeing no one is willing to back down and as a result, the dinner table becomes a battlefield.
If you are having similar problems or you want to avoid a similar situation in the future, get a copy of Parenting with Love and Logic. It explains not only your child’s behavior but also your reactions. Later on in the book, once you’ve understood the foundations of these behaviors and responses, you will learn how to effectively handle them.
The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children
When you hear the term “explosive child”, I’m pretty certain that at some level, you can already relate. Most parents have already experienced having to deal with children having tantrums. The most frustrating thing is they do this practically everywhere—in the house, the mall, school, parks. The place just doesn’t matter to these kids.
Then you find yourself asking if there’s something wrong with your parenting, if any of your actions has caused this behavior. You will be grateful to know there’s a book solely written for the purpose of helping you out in such circumstances. Dr. Ross Greene explains in his book why these behaviors occur and why certain approaches don’t seem to work. Needless to say, this is among the books every parent should have in their bookshelves.
By Thomas W. Phelan
Dr. Phelan’s parenting book has received a great deal of attention from parents and professionals in the field. He authored a book that focuses on effective discipline methods without using extreme actions. This is perfect for parents who are dealing with headstrong children.
The book is about the 1-2-3 counting method and how it is used to curb undesirable behavior. Now to some parents it may just sound like any other “parenting formula” book. But the thing with such books is, you are introduced to a concept and you alone can determine whether or not you can apply it to your children.
It’s also very important to note that just because you have the formula doesn’t mean that it’s guaranteed to work out. Again, all children are different. You may have to tweak a part here and there for it to be an exact fit for your kid.
Other Great Parenting Reads
By Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman
By John Medina
By Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
By Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
By Mariah Bruehl